Sunday, November 1, 2015

Six month courtship?

Is six months enough for a courtship/dating period when someone who wants to marry their significant other for life? In my particular case, as someone who is not getting any younger, it is appropriate. 

There are some who cohabitate for several years before deciding to marry. Others get engaged and have to wedding two or three years later. Both of these examples are wrong. 

If a six month courtship will exist for me, then an 8 to 12 month engagement period is appropriate. More than one year is extreme.

As the Church today celebrates the Feast of All Saints, those who are canonized and are not, we are reminded that heaven is the ultimate goal. It is not a walk in the park. Sadly, most will never see the beatific vision because of their various actions on earth. 

The primary purpose of the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony is to raise children into the Catholic faith. The secondary purpose if for the mutual assistance of the couple. Ultimately, parents are responsible for the salvation of their own children until they become of age. They are also responsible for their child(ren)s' education through high school, even if they send them to school. 

Finally, anytime you delay marriage after a year of engagement, any child produced outside of wedlock, or anytime a married couple uses any type of birth control (including NFP), you are committing mortal sins. God is to determine how many children you are to to have, not the couple. 

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